Tuesday, December 11, 2007

A Safe and Humane Way to Contain Your Loved One

You have a mother, father, or spouse who suffers from dementia or Alzheimer’s. Your loved one wanders in the middle of the night or is putting themselves into danger. You feel helpless as you do not know what to do. Then, there is the handicaps/special needs adult who poses a danger to himself and needs to be contained for safety reasons. He gets out of bed, messes up the house, puts things in his mouth, and sometimes, wanders away into danger.

Does any of this sound like your situation? Do you feel helpless right now? Stop right there! Help is on its way. Here is a solution.

The most humane way to contain your loved one and still ensure his comfort at the same time is to invest in an adult crib. Some may scorn you because they think it is weird or inhumane. But, wouldn’t you think it is better then tying them up or locking them in a room? Let’s compare the options and see why the adult crib would be the best way to go.

Tying Them Up

Wow! That right there just makes me quiver. This option makes it seem as though the person is the equivalent of an animal or hideous beast! Not to mention, when tied down, he is not comfortable in the least bit. He cannot change positions to get a good night sleep, and he is stuck in the same position the entire time which, many of us know from personal experience, can become excruciatingly painful. Have you ever slept in one position to wake up feeling stiff and in pain the next morning? That is what would happen if you should decide to tie down your loved one. This is a common method used in institutions which is one reason why I hate them. How sick!

Put yourself in your loved one’s shoes. Would you want this done to you? And, don’t you think your loved one deserves to be comfortable?

Locking Them in a Room

This may sound practical: but, it is dangerous. While he is prevented from wandering or ruining the rest of the house, this does not mean the situation is entirely safe. Just think of it. Your loved one could get into things in the room: or worse, he could punch out a window. Even if you should try to be as safety conscious as possible, there are still ways he can injure himself. And, then there are the fire hazards to consider.

Adult Cribs

This is the most humane option. While contained, your loved one still has room to move and breathe. This option is the least of the cruelest, and I’ll explain why.

When you put a baby in its crib to lie down for sleep or to get some chill time, is this cruel or inhumane? Should this be viewed as punishment? No way. And, why do babies sleep in cribs? Well, common sense would say that it is to contain them and to keep them out of danger. So, if the adult you are caring for has the mindset of a small child and needs to be contained for safety, doesn’t the same situation apply? Sure it does!

You may try to reason with yourself that the person’s age has something to do with it. Or, you may say that this option is not appropriate for adults. But, if you have this reasoning, you fail to remember that the adult in which you are dealing with is not just some ordinary adult. And many times, he is not his chronological age meaning that he is not the age he is mentally. His mental age will be something very different than the age he actually is. You are dealing with a special needs situation. Thus the investment in an adult crib is a sound and practical one.

With that said, here are some sites which you can order them.

The first site is at www.babyapparels.com. I believe this was originally made for the crazy people called adult babies: however, you can get cribs and changing tables for those who are disabled. When I inquired about the furniture, they were very nice and polite. They are worth doing business with.

The next site is at www.shilog.com, and is a medical wholesaler. The biggest crib that can be purchased there is a youth crib that is seventy-two inches long. This could fit a grown woman if she is not extremely tall. Possibly of about five/four or five/five.

Another site is found at http://www.enabledesignco.com/cribs.html.

It's great that there is a company like this so the disabled can still stay at home and be kept out of danger in a humane fashion.


Anonymous said...

i want to say that you are right on the mark with your thoughts... A crib is not something that is only for a baby - just as a diaper is something not just for a baby. If we can get over our predefined ideas on what something is or isn't - we can think with our minds, heart, and soul - and not just have the heard mentality. Thank you for your post... I 110% agree with you

Mole said...

Just because you don't understand adult babies doesn't mean you should call them crazy. They're still people, they still are mentally sound, they just have a different way of looking at life.

Anonymous said...

hi my name is chris i looking for a youth crib the link on the page dont work dose any one no ware i can bye a youth crib for adult i got a lot of heath thing roung with me missing disk in my bad the doc got me on a lot medes that make it hard to wake up and dizz so i role out of bed a lot and it mess my back up and i a frade sent there no disk left and it verbray running on verbra and thay lock up a lot so it hard lot day just to role over plus have tummy caser bad not good was wondering is some one can help me out plus was wondering if thay make a stoller that i can fix it i 5'6 and about 70 ponds tummy really bad cant really eat and stuff y i way so little a wheel case i cant use sent i cant sit up strate with a stoller can leve back so help with my spine i no i feel like such a baby and is there baby bottal that work for me sent lot time cant site up and plus all way dropeing stuff so make to much of a mess try sport bottal and stuff but some time i pass out from the pain or i not with it so for get to close it and i wake up with a mess ty in avants if any one can help me out chris

Benjamin said...

I'm sorry to hear that you made the decision to refer to the adult baby community as "crazy." I know you don't understand the interest, but it's not nice to call those who you don't understand names.

I'm an instructor who teaches a wide range of classes on alternative sexual interests, and I've learned over time that as long as someone is not doing anything non-consensual or seriously dangerous, it is NOT a sign of insanity to have unusual interests. In fact, an ability to identify and participate in the things that make a person happy is a good indication of health.

Ted Budzich said...
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Anonymous said...

Really disappointing that you chose to insult Adult Babies. Just because you do not understand them or share their outlook on life does not mean they are 'crazy'. You do yourself and your credibility no favours by being so closed minded.

Unknown said...

The mindset of the original poster was obviously kind and thoughtful regarding the needs of cognitively impaired adults. Her use of the term 'crazy' appeared to me to be a paraphrase of a mindset foreign to her own. Take a deep breath folks!